I wrote Reclaiming Trust with some key healing principles in mind.
- Trust is a form of Freedom
- Its dynamic and transformative
- It’s an opening up
- A flowering of the world.
My book, ‘Reclaiming Trust,’ explores the idea that Trust is a required platform from which to live any kind of wholehearted life. ‘Reclaiming Trust’ is an autoethnographic re-writing of self, and from a self-therapist’s point of view.
Autoethnography is a form of self-reflection and writing that explores the researcher’s personal experience and connects this autobiographical story to wider cultural, political, and social meanings and understandings. Autoethnography is a vulnerable, self-reflective form of writing used across various disciplines including communication studies, performance studies, education, English, anthropology, sociology, history, psychology, marketing, business and educational administration, arts education, health and exercise sciences, among others.
I wanted to use my lived experience, and my writing to create a model that could be replicated and reproduced by others to assist themselves to resolve issues, to notice creative relief, to engage with self and to change. Most people don’t think about or evaluate the level of trust that they have! And you can’t go to the “trust bank” and withdraw trust if your own reserves are low.
And yet research shows that where there are high levels of trust – whether in personal or business relationships – happy, healthy and balanced experience follows.
You cannot borrow or buy trust, you need to build it – and that is why I wrote “Reclaiming Trust” to show ways in which trust can be built.
I found in my own life, the biggest loss from experiencing trauma was the loss of ‘trust’.
How trusting am I? is not usually a question you might ask yourself. Trust is like the air you breath, you can take it for granted… but when its gone often it is not noticed and life becomes smaller, duller and muted.
Trust is a form of freedom…trust is an opening up, a flowering of the world. Trust is a reliance on, and a confidence in the truth. Trust is a commercial credit… It’s is something that, if you have lost – you have to notice that you have lost it before you have to learn it all over again… Self-trust is the most basic and often neglected form of trust. It allows us to express ourselves in our relationships, to explore in new directions that would otherwise be unimaginable… To play!
Trust reflects our ability to relax into our life. It enhances our ability to allow increased complexity into our lives. Trust involves personal responsibility, its built on consistency and earned over time. Trust allows us to grow, to change and to deepen in all the ways good that distrust distorts and shuts down.
Do you trust yourself?
The unconscious mind works 24/7.
The unconscious mind is always following your thoughts always answering the questions that you ask.
For many years I asked myself the questions like: Why is this happening? And – What if it happens again?
The fear that those two questions generated in my life sent me spiralling and re-creating more anxious feelings and traumatic events over and over until I learned how my mind worked.
I learned that that I could ask a different questions and get a different outcomes. It was then that I realised I had very little trust in myself or the people around me and that by boosting my trust levels regardless of the past I could boost my quality of life.
Thirteen Trust Questions
- How will you begin to trust yourself?
- How do you perceive trust?
- What does trust feel like for you?
- How would you know when you trust that just like you… money is energy and it flows to you and through you?
- How can you take your place in your family and trust the learning?
- Is trust in you dependent on others?
- How could you trust that you have healed the past completely?
- If trust had a sound – what would that sound like?
- If trust had a smell – what would trust smell like?
- How can yo trust that you chose this part?
- Where in your body does trust live?
- I wonder what you have to fix or change to trust yourself fully?
- How can you move forward with trust in your heart more and more each new day?
In our culture we are not taught to look within ourselves for the answers, as soon as illness or discomfort comes to us we rush for a pill, or a surgery or some outside help. We are not taught to trust ourselves.
And yet you can trust yourself and the answers within you are just right for you. The best healer in the world for your mind and your body is YOU! Your thoughts create your reality – and any past thoughts especially about traumatic events in the past are the cause of situations in your life in the present!
Sure we all need help and its important to seek the best healers or therapists you can find for you. I have learned from studying Hypnosis, Neuro Linguistic Programming and the mind, that the mind functions best when the learnings from past judgements, old thought patterns, beliefs and experiences about and from the past have been learned and the emotions attached to those experiences released.
Your most valuable resource in healing your life is your connection to your Unconscious mind. Hypnotherapy and NLP skills are a great way to deepen your connection to yourself.
Most people do not know how to run or use their mind to get it to do what they want it to do.
We live in an amazing universe and our thoughts are powerful!
Hypnosis is one of the most powerful healing modalities that I have found and I wanted to share that with my readers so I wrote a story and made hypnosis the book ends of my story.
In Reclaiming Trust I ask 13 questions about trust in the story on purpose.
My story ‘Reclaiming Trust’ takes the reader through a journey of family – most people are hypnotised to think that ‘family’ is this loving nurturing unit but often, and especially when a person has experienced trauma – ‘family’ is not nurturing or loving. I tell a story about my story because I wanted to show that neither I, nor any one else who has suffered trauma is their story but that they are much more than that.
Within each of the thirteen chapters of Reclaiming Trust there is a story of family member and a natural healing modality written on purpose to show that there are many healing modalities to assist a person to be free from the effects of physical, emotional, and sexual trauma and to find trust and grace and live a creative life of joy.